help with accepting parent

[Damon is Awesome]

So, every so often I have a dream of being angry at my dad and in the dream I'm in a state of rage, yet in waking life I'm not like this at all however we do not connect at all, he's never taught me anything nor has my mom but this anger, I'm unsure what to do, in my childhood yes there was a ton of emotional abuse, and I do find it hard to accept his path as someone who isn't spiritual, especially living with him, 

so can anyone help me? How do I accept him and the things he did to me, the way he hurt me, I mean, it's hard. But I really want to integrate with myself, to see a brighter perspective