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How would you recognize people who dont like you vs people who are jealous of you?

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How would you recognize people who dont like you vs people who are jealous of you?

Not just indifference to you when sharing your space at work, but who would hurt you

Because  they dont like you? because they envy you? Or simply  to fit in at your cost?

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At work you need to be professional and polite.  So does everyone else.

We might have intuitions about what other people are thinking but my intuitions are often wrong and we won’t truly know unless they tell us.  Even then, they might be lying to us or fooling themselves.

I think you should worry more about respect, and professionalism.   Maybe trust will develop over time but it can take a while for trust to develop.

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When people hate you without having wronged them, they recognize something in you that they have hidden away in themselves, and they want to do the same thing with you. You are experiencing the physical manifestation of their fight against themselves.

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In a work space jealousy is often based on competitiveness. 

Not liking someone usually depends on each person's upbringing: some show it openly, others simply prefer to avoid the person they dislike.

Also every work space has times when people has to undergo through a certain pressure like timing/deadline, goal etc. during  which people make mistakes and there will be always someone freaking out or complaining... blaming everyone and/or pointing finger at others - this person would be a good one to watch for potential signs of stabbing in the back.

But generally it is not always who is loud and screaming, but the one who is mostly quiet may surprise you the most. 

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I would think that they feel powerless, that’s why they don’t like you - whatever the true reason is (e.g: jealousy).. not as the true fight against you, they just lack of something.. that just give you some clue of understanding and release the tension you may feel against them (because your own perception is far more important)..

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