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What does a private torturer feel and imagine is doing

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What does a private torturer feel and imagine is doing

Many of us have been not only misstreated, but actually tortured in private. This is a step beyond "dysfunctional" or "narcissistic" relationships, and we need to understand. Thank you ALL. Bless you.

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The abuser is apparently motivated out of their own pain to exorcise a perceived evil from someone they love or control. Others cannot feel pain and so confuse inflicting pain as pleasurable. Just as those who inflict pain on themselves seek to feel something other than numbness and have control over something even if only their own pain. In doing drug abuse counseling I've seen where people lose the ability to feel others pain when over medicating their own pain and recently it was reported that people taking Tylenol had less empathy than others.

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Torturers are often the most tortured victims. 

They do lash out and often pathologically (psychically) dump their inner pathological pain onto another.    It's a transfer of energy. In those moments of torment for a victim.  Torturers can feel bliss.  Highs.    Almost euphoric highs as they torment someone they perceived as a victim 

Its because they feel temporary relief of their pain.   By giving it to someone else.---  the worse pain they inflict.   The better it feels.  

They do it unconsciously.   

The codependent feels a similar high almost at the exact same wavelength.    It's like extreme polarity.    One is contacting.  One is expanding.    One is 0 degrees.   One is 180 degrees.   Completely out of phase.   

That high is felt by codependent.   And low is equally felt by them too.    But at different wavelengths.  

And the codependent can't pawn their pain off on others misery.  Just as sociopath or NPD can't feel constant high ---  

 

the only way to fix it is within.    Let go of the other person. They suffer too.   They don't show it.   Sometimes.   They suffer in a much more intense way.  

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I recommend to watch 'Child of Rage' full documentary, and even the movie based on it - you find both of them on Youtube. Mind you that if you are sensible to the subject, it might be a tough pill to swallow. Be in a good mental place when you watch it.

It will give you insight on how abusers are born. The cycle - victim - abuser - victim - abuser.

And then remember that we are all children - no matter what age, no matter whether you can see it or not. Illusions :)

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