Victoria1199

2016 sex.

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I can see the world we live in matching a mixture of my old and new ideas about sex. That means it matches our idea of sex, since it's our world and our law of attraction. There's a lot of guilt and shame. (I'm talking about the general feel, as there are exceptions). Guilt is one of the most 'dangerous' kind of pain generators when it comes to law of attraction because it rings close to powerlessness!

How did our bodies become a subject of shame and guilt? Well... how did our parents treat the subject of sex and what was their reaction to our intimate body parts? How about to theirs? Were they shying away? Were they changing the channels when a sex scene came up on TV? Did they talk to us about our intimate parts when we were children or did they wait until we reached puberty?

I was thinking... how oblivious and ignorant can we (our parents, their parents and even us) be to our bodies? (As I write this I realise my own shaming and finger pointing, but just bear with me please! :) ) Why do we think that our children aren't born already as sexual beings (as Teal emphasises in many of her talks)? We see funny YouTube videos with babies as young as a couple of months humping their toys... I mean, come on, isn't it obvious? I've had my first sexual encounter with myself at 6 years old, waaay before my parents would even think about havent 'The Talk' with me. When they had it I had already planned my first sexual encounter with a different partner. I've had many friends tell me about their super young self-discovering experiences. Why do we grow up, have children and forget this? I know I'm making the assumption that our parents were the same, as I never asked them personally, but seeing how it's the same elsewhere (this whole theme came to me by watching my cat being in heat for the first time) I'm pretty confident with this assumption.

I'd like to see a world that doesn't cringe when thinking of standing naked in front of their 4 year olds and letting their children ask questions about the adult body. That's not shameful. That shouldn't make people feel like they're abusing their children. Since when is learning about the body any close to abuse?! That world would be a world free of period pains because girls would know from the youngest age that being a female is amazing and they wouldn't fear being a woman. Because their mom has nothing to hide when it comes to it, and neither does dad. It would be a world free of men competing in penis sizes, because they would know from a young age that the penis can simply vary in size just like a woman's boobs and butts can. Say it as it is. Children can take it. They don't know shame and guilt, we teach them. Let's break the circle. It starts with us and our children. They won't judge the human species for having pleasure and reproducing!

The oldest memory I have of my parents in terms of sex is that during all my childhood they almost never kissed in front of me and my brother. That had already sent a message to my child mind that intimacy is WRONG! And that reflected into my life up until now! Can you just image HOW we are creating? And WHY consciousness is important? Of course we do, that's why we're here.

I can't wait to hear all your ideas!

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Perfectly said

In my upbringing its was natural we went from that i was 3 years old every week to the sauna with the whole family (6 members).

I was wondering later why others felt shameful about it that was not even close to my reality. Tought for years all girls were crazy amd didnt like seks because of the shame they had.

First i thought that they were insecure about there bodies. Or whatever it made seks with a boundry which is to say it soft fustrating. Cause of the fact that there were toughts involved instead of total involvement. On they otherhand i had a rich fantasy in solutions at that time to make it more exciting for both. so that were crazy times. was lots of fun.

I think its not even needed if there is absolute no issue and no shame by a child to have a talk at a certain age. Let them advanture than we learn them never our mistake or viewpoint on that aspect.

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I mean I'm sure people who have no internet or watch tv have a healthy way of seeing sex and the naked human body. they don't sexualize the human body because well they weren't introduced to the unhealthy version like porn or hearing these stories from the older kids and lets make fun of periods and say its gross when its all natural. people have ideas about being naked and how wrong it is only because we attach sexual feelings with being naked, when that's what a body looks like, you(society) sexualized it, that's what it looks like, and they all come it different sizes and races and the spectrum is huge, even thought its shoved down our throats which ones are the most attractive.

I'm sure there's laws about kids and teaching sex, but growing up, well kids have the internet now so they can just google it, but when you see a vagina for the first time its like whoa that's different from mine, or a penis if you're a girl. that gets taught at like age 10? the naked body does get shamed and is sexualized at this time, so it would be hard to change that in people. the goal seems to be sex, and not the actual connection.

i blame society for what its done to the whole naked body, and im sure some people have trauma with the whole sex part too. you have experiences growing up and have no idea if its normal because nobody talks about it, it just happened to you.

 

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Do you know how the 'Missionary Style', gets it's name? According to the missionaries (a person set on a religious mission), whom aided in providing religion to newly colonized cultures back in the days. The 'Missionary Style', was the only style of intercourse that was acceptable under god. That's man on top, woman on bottom.

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Growing up, I just now realized that I l experience a negative feeling whenever I hear the words "private parts". When I was growin up, my mom refered to boobs and the vagina as private parts on our body. So to me, I associated this with there being something wrong and shameful about exposing that to someone else or even talking about it. I could go on and on about  all the different ways my parents sort of shamed the human body but I know this isn't new. I'm excited too for the day when children don't have to be afraid to talk about it and are able to look at each other naked and not sexual ice it or shame it. I know I need to do some shadow work on his topic still, because just writing some of this still made me a bit uncomfortable at the end ?

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wonderful topic! I am all for it!

On 11/7/2016 at 5:20 PM, Victoria1199 said:

 Say it as it is. Children can take it. They don't know shame and guilt, we teach them. Let's break the circle. It starts with us and our children. They won't judge the human species for having pleasure and reproducing!

 

Reproduction is a  favorite topic of my 9 year old. His current vision on it is more focused on mixing different DNAs. I think he still thinks of sex as a science project.  And it reminds me of this video since he doesn't grasp spiritual concept fully yet. But he'll get there when it's time :)

 

 

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